Has anyone else noticed that children are pretty much an accessory now? It used to be that young parents fucked up but at the end of the day they got their shit together and changed their life style because they were now a parent. I rarely ever see this any more. I always see young single moms on myspace wearing some bikini in their default picture and somewhere on their profile is a rap lyric of some kind about how "Boys are always chasin' after me" "Feelin' so fresh and so naughty" blah blah blah. Their profiles also include a picture of their child and under it they've written something about how their lives changed the moment their child was born. And young single Dads do the same thing, I'm not leaving them out. They totally use their child as a new way to get laid. They're "responsible" and "sensitive" now. Yet they're constantly out drinking with their friends trying to find something to stick it in. The thing is, I totally have a thing for fathers. So it angers me when I see that so many of them are acting like douche bags all the time now.
I'm not saying you can't ever go out with your friends if you have a child, or that you're not allowed to date anyone. I don't believe that you have to only be a parent and there is no room for anything else. I'm just saying that the child SHOULD be your first priority and you should chill out with the fact that you're constantly out all the time. They claim it's "balancing their life" and "making time for myself" but in reality they're just acting like frat boys and sorority girls. Children aren't as naive and ignorant as so many people seem to think. Children can see, and as they get older they'll watch their friends and their parents and they will eventually think to themselves "Why is my mother so different?" "How come my father isn't the same way?". I'm not saying it's easy, it's fucking difficult. But I wish more people out there would say "Now, I have something else to live for now. Now, I have something that needs me and depends on ME" instead of thinking of their child as a burden, or a piece to be used when it's convenient.